lifeisrandom34 replied to your post “I just got involved in a Facebook debate with an MRA and I have a…”
I’ll pray for him.
ohh, he’s alleged that “nobody brought feminism into this” and later, “i never said that women didn’t face difficulties, but men also have their struggles”
Ohhhhhh god. Ok here’s what kills me about this attitude: purposefully perpetuating violence is not something that is assigned to you at birth. Vulnerability is. When people say “Oh women just look at me an see a potential rapist” they fail to see that this is not about them, there is nothing inherently predatorial about anyone. If someone looks at you and sees you as a potential threat that means they recognize that they are a potential victim. They fear their own, inborn vulnerability. Because I am physically weak, I have to be wary because strong people could take advantage of me if they wanted to. But there is literally no way to tell what kind of CHOICE people will make with their advantages.
Obviously we would all love to live in a world in which men weren’t feared. But, we’d either have to make every single person the same level of strength so we’re all evenly matched in a physical fight, or strong people need to stop making violent choices. And since the former isn’t possible (at least…not that I know of), it HAS to be the later in order for anything to change. So, stop bitching about being seen as a threat and start working to eliminate that threat in the first place. Then-SURPRISE- women wont think of you as a potential rapist anymore. Problem solved and douchey facebook dudes can go back to having their feelings in peace.
Also: come on, dude, it’s called intersectionality. Feminists are the ones who are trying to get better representation of bisexuality in the media. We’re trying to help you.
Not that you actually need to hear any of this, but hey! I don’t know the guy so I can’t talk to him directly. And I needed to vent! :) Hope the rest of your night goes better!